girl at large

I like to write about life when you have a job, some kids, a fixer upper and a fatal disease.

Category: the other pillow

  • The second baby is both easier and more difficult. I knew what was coming, so I dreaded labor and delivery. My experience with Viv was so tough, I feared a repeat. And no, "getting a healthy baby at the end" does not erase a bad birth experience. It certainly helps over the alternative, but a…

  • Viv: "Look Papa, that airplane is making a line in the sky" Paulie: "That's because the turbine engine makes water and it's cold up there so it makes a vapor trail". Viv: "Oh, it's like a magic princess!"   Posted with Blogsy

  • While Mom, Viv and I were road tripping, Paulie was home working away on the bedroom. Out came the groovy orange closet, fluorescent lights, acoustic tile ceiling and dark faux wood wall paneling. Underneath the 70's vintage cladding were remnants of a 70's teenage graffiti conversation, complete with sketches of guitars and booze bottles. This…

  • Me: *sneeze*! "Honey, can you get me a tissue?" Paulie: "Here you go my love". Pause. Me: "You thought I was going to use that on my nose, didn't you?" Paulie: "I did, I really did." Happy Anniversary darling!   Posted with Blogsy

  • Getting ready for Baby #2's arrival has included lots of preparatory conversations with Viv. We cover sharing, gentleness, jealousy…all the expected topics for a soon-to-be-sibling. Turns out, as I listen to our household with my mind on adding a new baby to the mix, it may be Paulie that needs the prep talk. He has…

  • We get the set! Number two is a boy. I didn't know Paulie wanted a boy until the most recent doctors appointment. When I asked him why he hadn't mentioned his wish to me, he said "I didn't want to be 'that guy'". He was totally "that guy" when he threw his arms up in…

  • Viv is a world. She is a toddler. She has dollies and friends and likes and dislikes. She has opinions. She sings to herself. She sings to us. (We call it Toddler Opera). She is curious, she is cautious. She is simultaneously infuriating and fascinating. She is three years old. Me, at the end of…

  • Believe it or not, I’m glad to have this goofball back home.

  • After at last convincing Paulie that hiring another man to work on the house is not the same as having another man sleep with me, we have bathroom progress! The crew got the shower walls framed in, the new subfloor completed medicine cabinet roughed in, and the walls prepped for tile…in one day. We started…

  • I've never been so thrilled to see a garage wall! The two crumbling broken windows in the back of the garage were replaced with gleaming bright glass block today. It's a small thing, but a huge improvement. The garage wall is my last view when I leave for work each day, and my first impression…