girl at large

I like to write about life when you have a job, some kids, a fixer upper and a fatal disease.

Category: the other pillow

  • In a stunning reversal, I like my house and hate my husband. Ok, so that's too strong, but I'm cranky this morning. And we're not seeing eye to eye. But, like all our marital storms, this one will pass. What will stay, I hope, is my new satisfaction with the house. The painting continues, one…

  •   When I wore my favorite dress on my birthday and forgot that the fourth grade teacher did "birthday spankings". He made me crawl through the "spank machine" of my classmates legs as they paddled my bottom, at the end of the tunnel he put me on his lap, lifted my dress and spanked my…

  • We're having a little family do today. I mentioned in passing that I wished the garbage cans weren't so visible. Five minutes later, he's building a screen.   Posted with Blogsy

  • "I'm disappointed, Charlie's eyes are turning dark.They were so light for so long, I had hopes they would be green like mine. Looks like they are going to be brown instead, I'm so bummed". "Why so bummed?" "I don't know, don't you wish a little bit that your kids look like yourself?" "They do look…

  • That time we were standing waiting for the Max train in Portland and it began raining and you asked if I wanted your umbrella and I said no (because I used to live there and I know better) and then you said, with admiration, "You're so durable." That was the most romantic thing you ever…

  • Parenting is a nocturnal experience. We four are still in one bedroom, in our separate sections, but still all in together. Each night is a campsite of mysterious thumps and hums; something is always vibrating. Previous silence is filled with sniffles, snores and baby wheezes. We are awakened by coughs, hunger cries, dead batteries. I…

  • Yes, those are birthday candles in corn muffins. October is a month of milestones. Paulie turned 47, Vivi turned 4, and Charlie grew into his 4th month. Celebrations would be nice, but an organized gathering, an organized anything (!), seems out of our reach these days. Who can bake a cake and make dinner and…

  • "Parenting is one small indignity after another; from my robe falling open at inopportune times, to the goldfish I just snacked on that I'm pretty sure had been on the floor". -Paulie Add to that: -Changing a diaper on a public restroom floor. -An Uncle asking "Is the baby under here?" as he lifts the…

  • Charlie is five weeks old tomorrow. I have aged five years. Some highlights: -"Am I wearing pants? Not 'should I wear pants', but can you tell me at this moment do I have my pants on?" -"They are so cute so that you won't kill them" (thanks Grandma) -"The sheets were always so scratchy" (birth…

  •   The bathroom is finished! It took a year, but at last we have a working sink, toilet AND shower on the second floor. Our tile guy, dear and beloved Scott, did our job moonlighting between a day time tile gig and a night shift driving gig. So, one row at a time, over the…